New York Times Portraits of Grief

Robert Deraney

When Michele Haobsh learned last year that she had breast cancer, she called Robert Deraney, her brother, and said: "What do I do?" He provided answers, finding an oncologist and surgeon and accompanying her to chemotherapy and radiation appointments. Long before she did, he joined Gilda's Club, for people with cancer and their families, and made an appointment for her and her family. "He got me through it," she said.

Mr. Deraney, 43, a financial consultant who graduated from Princeton and the Wharton School, was at a breakfast meeting at Windows on the World on Sept. 11.

He was the "high energy" family organizer, Mrs. Haobsh said. He planned the annual reunions of 70 relatives, ordering Lebanese food and creating a game - Who Wants to be a Famillionaire? - based on Deraney trivia.

His Upper West Side apartment was furnished with family antiques. He set an elegant table with china and silver for 35 and ended evenings by playing the piano. "He was," Mrs. Haobsh said, "pretty much perfect."